6 Pesach: brain crumbs

[magid]

Note to self: get a hand fan to bring on the T.

Words that should exist

• how a person on first meeting is merely ordinary in looks, but after getting to know zir, zir becomes attractive
  
• a friend who vanishes from your life as soon as zir is in a new relationship, to return only after the breakup

Pesach has been good so far (though exhausting) except for the teeth, which have hurt since just after the first seder. I got to a dentist yesterday, and there will be many more appointments in the near future, alas. I'm looking forward to the end of the pain, anyway.

The seders were very different in feel, but oddly similar in meal. Both started with a hard-boiled egg, moved on to chicken soup with matza balls, and gefilte fish. Main course was sliced turkey breast, with a starch and a veggie. And desserts were macaroons. It was a bit eerie, actually. Other than food, the first night featured little kids, a wide variety of adults who didn't know one another, and hosts who were particular about shiurim (quantities) and other details. The second night featured thoughtful adults who mostly knew one another, and a wide range of discussion. Both were good, in different ways.

Gaming: not dead yet.

It's the fifth day of the omer.

Cooking for the last days: turkey with stuffing (probably a combination of potato and farfel), cranberry sauce, roasted sweet potatoes (with cayenne, ginger, and cinnamon), sauteed Swiss chard, gefilte fish baked with salsa, roasted garlic, salad. Also whatever other veggies end up cooked (broccoli, collards, and eggplant all come to mind). I'll likely make matza brei on chag for last day lunch. Possibles: chocolate-dipped dried fruit or nuts, spiced nuts, fruit compote. Also would be good to get some fresh fruit.

Comments

[danger-chick.livejournal.com]

how a person on first meeting is merely ordinary in looks, but after getting to know zir, zir becomes attractive
One of my friends is definitely in this category. My friend J started dating this guy R around the same time I started dating M4. The first time I met R we were talking about strip clubs and he came off sort of frat boyish. But over time I have realized that the initial impression was completely incorrect. He's a comic book geek, who likes old movies. He was unemployed for next to forver and used that time doing volunteer work and babysitting his nieces. Turns out that he is a completely fascinating, wonderful, warm human being and I missed that completely from the beginning.

a friend who vanishes from your life as soon as zir is in a new relationship, to return only after the breakup
I tend to call them not a friend.

[magid.livejournal.com]

I tend to call them not a friend.
Heh. About right, though there's some who use friend in a very open way, including many more than I might. In which case, still a friend, but perhaps downgraded in the heart?

[queue.livejournal.com]

how a person on first meeting is merely ordinary in looks, but after getting to know zir, zir becomes attractive

Would this be a noun for the phenomenon? An adjective to describe the person on first meeting? And adjective to describe the person once they have become attractive? A noun for the person?

[magid.livejournal.com]

I was thinking of either an adjective or noun for the person once more attractive. Definitely not an adjective for first meeting. Having a noun for the phenomenon would be good, too (it would be an interesting lexical gap if there were a word for the person (noun or adjective), but not for the phenomenon). I think of it as the amelioration process, myself.

[ichur72.livejournal.com]

>> a friend who vanishes from your life as soon as zir is in a new relationship, to return only after the breakup

May I suggest "palanso"? It looks exotic but is really an acronym I just made up for "pals as long as no significant other".

[magid.livejournal.com]

Nice. Something about the 'o' sound at the end works for me.

[queue.livejournal.com]

And it also kind of sounds like "pal and so", which could be taken to mean "not quite a friend, just a pal and so", or maybe "pal-and-so" as a play on "so-and-so", to give it that bit of negative connotation.

[geekosaur]

Hm. "Paloni" (...almoni)? (Which also goes with "baloney" :)